I was thinking about how much I sometimes avoid writing on this blog. My new discipline is to write first thing before I do anything else. I was thinking about how much it's a metaphor for life.
Communication is the biggest problem in all relationships. People don't say enough or they say too much. People hear things through the eardrum of their past experience. Facebook has taught me a lot about this. I can post something and people will comment and not even read what I write. They're impulse is to react. I realize that that is why most people don't like to put themselves out there. It's a scary prospect.
Imagine being vulnerable and having someone crazy attack you? It's the same in intimate relationships. Someone once taught me that people need to hear things 3 times because their past clouds their present. I have come to realize this to be true. Most of the time if I don't react and say what I'm trying to say, in a calm voice, 3 times, people eventually hear me. The courage that it takes to trust that I deserve to be heard is like no other. But the benefits are astounding.
I always thought why bother? Why bother trying to talk if no one will listen. I realize that I was coming from a childish place. I wanted people to read my mind. I didn't want to have to exert myself to get what I wanted.
Well welcome to the more mature suecostello.com! I will expose myself on a daily basis and if for some reason you read it the wrong way, I'll try to elaborate; if for some reason we don't connect, it's OK too. Live and let live!! I love that saying, i just never realized I was only doing the second part. In order to live you have to be seen and you have to be seen over and over because most people are thinking about themselves.